Yesterday, I had an urge to go out and buy myself a lovely big pad of paper, which I did. I found a sharpie that I fell in love with, so that came home with me too and that was when I put pen to paper.
The above drawing created itself on the page and I have called it ‘Transitions in love’. It represents the love that I am feeling right now in my life. There is a simplicity and deep, indefinable beauty to what I have been experiencing since I met Dave. He has enriched my life and I am hopeful that I am enriching his life in the best possible way too.
Love is a funny thing. It is romantic at first but after a time, it can transition from the surface experience to something deep, profound and intense. That is what I call ‘mature love’. That is the kind of love that understands that we are not perfect and is forgiving. It is an unselfish love and one that only grows deeper with the passage of the seasons.
This is the love that I want most in my life. I do very much enjoy the honey moon stage of love and romance, but in the end, I want the love that grows with me on a daily basis.
In my experience, I have gone through a few relationships and flings, even though, during the flings I never once thought that was what was happening. They kind of happened to me. As I have learned life lessons about love, I have learned a great deal about who I am and how I relate to the other person and myself. I have learned to be alone and to love myself without the ‘other’ there to provide validation. I have learned to love the single life and now I am learning to love the couple life in a new and deeply wonderful way with the right man for me.
It took a few emotional wake up calls to bring me to understand what mature love offers and I am grateful for every single lesson, even the lessons that shattered my heart to the core. Each time that I have shattered, I have taken time to see what I have been taught and found the kernel of opportunity to be more ready for the right man to come into my life. In hindsight, I know that every experience I have been through has played an important and pivotal role in developing me into the person I am today.
I am glad to say that I am ready for mature and balanced love in my life now.
Love has a way of uncovering insecurities but it also has a way of reassuring us that we are valuable beyond measure.